Why Autism Education Matters
Teaching Our Kids to Treat Everyone as Equals: Why Autism Education Matters
As a mom of autistic boys, I see firsthand the power of kindness—and sadly, the pain that comes when it’s missing. The bullying my kids (and so many others) face is unreal. But here’s the thing: so much of it doesn’t come from true “meanness,” it comes from a lack of education.
Kids can’t understand what they don’t know. And when they don’t understand, it’s easy for them to tease, avoid, or exclude. That’s why it is our job as parents to talk to our children about what autism is, what it isn’t, and how to treat everyone equally—disability or not.
What Autism Really Means
Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) isn’t a disease. It isn’t “bad behavior.” It isn’t something that needs “fixing.” Autism is a different way of seeing and experiencing the world.
Here are a few simple facts kids (and parents) should know:
Autism affects communication and social skills. Some autistic kids may not pick up on tone of voice, body language, or sarcasm the same way.
Autism often comes with sensory differences. Bright lights, loud sounds, or crowded places can feel overwhelming.
Routine is important. Change can feel scary or stressful, so transitions might be harder.
Strengths shine, too. Many autistic kids have incredible focus, creativity, honesty, and deep knowledge about the things they love.
Autism Comes in Many Forms
One of the most important things to teach our kids is that autism is a spectrum—meaning it looks different in every person. No two autistic kids are exactly the same.
Some kids are very high-functioning. They may do well in school, talk just fine, and seem “typical” on the outside, but they struggle deeply with social cues, sarcasm, or making friends.
Some kids are nonverbal. They may not speak with words, but they often use devices, gestures, or sounds to communicate. Nonverbal doesn’t mean they don’t understand—it just means they express themselves differently.
Some kids have intense interests. They might know everything about dinosaurs, trains, or space, and can talk about it for hours with amazing detail.
Some kids have strong sensory needs. They may wear headphones to block out noise, flap their hands when excited, or avoid certain textures or foods.
Some kids need daily support, others live independently. Autism doesn’t look one way—it’s a wide, colorful range of abilities, challenges, and strengths.
When kids (and adults) realize that autism is not “one-size-fits-all,” it’s easier to accept each child for who they are instead of making unfair comparisons.
Why Friendship Matters
Every child wants to feel “normal.” Every child wants to belong. For autistic kids, friendships can be life-changing. A simple invitation to play, a smile in the lunchroom, or a buddy in class makes them feel equal—not like a burden.
When kids are encouraged to include instead of exclude, they learn empathy, patience, and understanding. And trust me—autistic kids bring so much joy, laughter, and light when given the chance. They can brighten your child’s day in ways you might never expect.
Bullying Comes in Many Forms
Bullying isn’t always obvious. It’s not just name-calling or pushing. Sometimes it looks like:
Not inviting the autistic child to join a game.
Laughing when they miss a social cue.
Whispering about them behind their back.
Rolling eyes when they repeat something they love.
These small acts hurt just as much as bigger ones. By talking to our kids about empathy and inclusion, we teach them that kindness is always the right choice.
How Parents Can Educate Themselves (and Their Kids)
If you don’t know much about autism, that’s okay. Start learning. Your willingness to understand will ripple down to your children. Here are some ways:
Google it. A simple search can give you a basic understanding.
Ask questions. Parents like me are happy to share what life looks like with autistic kids.
Join groups. There are incredible online and local communities dedicated to autism awareness and support.
Read books or watch videos. Many are made specifically for kids to understand autism in a positive way.
Final Thoughts
Autism is not a problem—it’s a different way to see the world. As parents, we need to teach our children that differences aren’t something to laugh at—they’re something to embrace.
Encourage your kids to be friends with autistic children. Show them how to include instead of exclude. Teach them that equal treatment means every child deserves kindness, respect, and a chance to belong.
Because the truth is, the more we raise compassionate kids, the more we create a world where everyone—autistic or not—can thrive. 💙